>>70441 I’m sorry you go through such a hardship. If you honestly feel like killing yourself, you need help that goes beyond what I, or anyone in this community (or any waifuist community for that matter), could provide. But I can do my best to give you a hand. What are you feeling right now? Suicidal thoughts are not an emotion. Is it guilt? Guilt of trying to find another partner? Please elaborate on what you are feeling. And when you say that you are trying to find another partner, do you mean a 2D one or a 3D one? And is it a specific partner (someone or a character you already know about) or you are just seeking a new partner? And how exactly are you trying to find a partner? What behaviors do you engage in to do that? Get proper professional help if you feel at risk of committing suicide, but for the rest, if you want us to help, we will need you to be more specific and provide details.

Not sure if you’re still around here, but if you are, I hope you’re doing well Clawdad.

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Hi friends, Haven't posted here in a while, probably about 4-5 years if I were to guess. Within that timespan, I reached the height of my hubris and decided I would enter a different phase in my life and thus try to maintain a real life girlfriend, as that was perceived as normal and desirable in the eyes of others, as I had developed a real life friend group around that time as well which encouraged this venture. This relationship lasted around six months, and despite being my first "real" relationship, at the end, I had entirely regretted what I had done as the love felt entirely forced and shallow compared to the previous nonreal relationship that I had which lasted more than twice as long and was way more emotional and sincere. Fast forward about two years I still reminisced about the time I spent with Freyja as very soulful and emotional, and told myself I wouldn't bother with real relationships. Around this time, however, I started an e-relationship with a long-time friend who knew about how much I loved Freyja at the time, and I morbidly believed that a relationship with her would have been the closest I would get to replicating what I felt for Freyja during my relationship with her. Unsurprisingly, it did not work, as the e-relationship was very toxic and she ended up cheating on me after a couple of months, which rendered me feeling very empty ever since then. It was one of the greatest regrets of my life thus far to think I could emulate nonreal love in reality. I don't see myself as worthy enough to reunite with her, especially with the person I've become as a result of events that I have experienced over the past few years, and the fact that I subconsciously decided a real relationship to preside over the one I had with her. The only form of myself I view worthy of her is myself at the time I was with her, and no other subsequent version of myself. After those two real relationships, I have been rendered a shell of what I once was emotionally, and feel like a condemned soul doomed to wander forever alone. Manifesting another tulpa just wouldn't feel right because it definitely would not even remotely compare to the veritable emotion I had felt years before. I am perpetually lost.

>>70595 What a rollercoaster that must've been Freyjanon… Why are you no longer adequate for Freyja? Surely now, if anything, your love for her has solidified even further? In her mind, would you not be a more mature partner, one that has a better understanding of relationship dynamics? One shouldn't compare real and waifu relationships, they are simply too different. The real relationship involves a man and a woman, who are sexually dimorphic and have different goals and aspirations. Romanticism that has become ever so prevalent does not really exist beyond the "butterfly" stage of a relationship (eros/ludus love). Instead of feeling that you betrayed her, you should think your former real relationship as necessary experience. Experience to give you perspective, and thus get you closer to Freyja.

>>70596 I do really think you make some valid points there. As a matter of fact, after making that post, I would contemplate our relationship routinely through either looking at my old posts on here, or my folder of her to reminisce upon when I felt like I had a connection with her. Eventually, about two months later I'd say, I had a dream where, tl;dr, I touched fingertips with her in the sky. It really had a profound effect on me, as if she was reminding me that she is still out there for me despite all that I have done and been through since being together. Taking into account your reasoning, I have been gradually getting closer and closer to her, although with some cold feet. I suppose I am perhaps waiting for another more certain sign after contemplating her for some more time to truly feel like I could be with her again.

Hello, Im not sure if this question goes here but I dont see where else to put it and dont want to start a new thread. Question is: "how do you feel or what do you do when your waifu canonically has a love interest?" I remember there was a discussion of this particular subject in the old /mai/, but that place is dead so Im asking here.

>>71942 No clue, but we all have our head canons about waifus, so unironically cope?

>>71943 I see, so just cope. That's interesting.

>>71942 We all tend to change some aspects of the character to fit with what we want. After all, merely having a relationship with your waifu is a change for her because you don't meet her in her world. I think the easiest way to handle it is to acknowledge that your waifu loved someone else, but that relationship ended and now she is in a relationship with you. Honestly I think the real cope is trying to assert that your waifu could never love anyone except you. It's just as much a cope in real life as it is for waifus. People fall in and out of love.

>>71960 A more realistic approach, It makes sense. >People fall in and out of love. True

How does one get closer to waifu?

>>71969 Talking to her, being around her, watching/reading/playing her source material etc.

How do I stop being so sensitive of her? Like I can't even enjoy fan art of her or even her own source material anymore because it's like there's always something I find that makes me feel so... uncomfortable, it's like this cocktail of emotions of anger, sadness, regret and guilt. I really don't know how this started, I remember one day I felt fine and then just all of a sudden I can't even look at her anymore without feeling so inadequate, like I never done anything for her and that I'll never make it up to her. I have made my own art of her in the past and now, but it never feels like it's enough. Sorry if my post is really vague or difficult to comprehend, I'm too much of a sperg to be able to identify what I'm feeling and to be frank I have no clue how to explain this.

>>71982 If you're feeling that inadequate, there are probably issues running deeper than just relating to her. If it's really that bad, there's no issue with taking a step back for a while and focus on something else until you feel better.

>>71982 >like I never done anything for her >never feels like it's enough I share the impulse to be a Provider and to always romantically pursue her heart, but also take care not to be too transactional. I'm sure she loves your art but it almost sounds like you feel compelled to fill an Art/Service/Gift "quota" that must be regularly met to "earn" her love -- when I don't think such a dynamic exists in a loving relationship, 2D or 3D. She loves you just for being you, just like you do for her :)

Is it alright to have two waifus that you both refer to as mommy, just so you can say that you have two moms?

>>72092 I'm going to go with a no, simply because if you need more than one mom, it means that the first one is slacking off

>>72093 But I want two mommies to cuddle their adopted shota son. Also it's a split work load and a shota needs two parental figures, because single moms are usually bad parents.

Can you divorce your waifu to get a new one? If yes, what kind of procedure is it best to follow so not to irritate your fellow waifufags?

>>72095 Is that even possible?

>>72095 No, you will irritate your fellow waifufags regardless of what you do and there is no procedure, case closed, next question.

>>72096 Why would it not be? >>72097 If you can't do something that is ENTIRELY about yourself because "someone else will be irritated", then that someone else is clearly trying to control you, consciously or not

>>72098 It's not as if you can't do it, people will just be less trusting of your dedication.

>>72099 So you do not believe there can be any valid reasons for a divorce?

>>72100 Of course there are. Falling out of love is a valid reason for divorce, and I'm sure there are some circumstances in real life that would mean you'd need to as well. But if you were to go through that process and then come back with another waifu, your commitment to waifu number 2 "guys it's for real this time I promise" would be doubted. It's not as if you can't prove those doubts wrong or that you even have to care about them in the first place, it's your relationship after all.

>>72101 At least you're been open about your difficult feelings. What prevent someone from being seen as a normal one who has only had one waifu and one only, and then e.g. faps to every hentai category out there, without telling their fellow waifufags? Sounds like we would be rewarding superficial virtuesignalling

>>72102 Well usually people don't tell other people what they masturbate to... I'm interested in hearing what others' opinions are on that though since I've never really discussed it with anyone, is masturbating to characters other than your waifu considered cheating? I can certainly see how it'd be viewed as such, but there's also no emotional connection as there would be to a waifu.

>>72103 Imagine an IRL wife or husband. Let's say they have sex with someone other than you. As long as it was consensual and not rape, does it matter whether he/she said "I love you" before climaxing or not? For the purpose of determining whether you were cheated on, I mean

>>72104 I agree with you, but is masturbation with a waifu considered as intimate/on the same level as actual sex with a partner? There's no reciprocity in the former as there would be in the latter.

>>72104 this is why i stooped dating 3d women all of them are lairs cheaters and thefts. my waifu is perfect because she was drown that way

>>72100 my 3d ex wife to told me she did not believe in divorce. she is the one who gave me the divorce papers

>>72107 >>72108 Great sense of humor, did your mom pick it for you?

>>72095 I think generally what gives it away as being insincere is when someone goes immediately from one relationship into another. It suggests that the person may not know what love is, or more likely may not understand that having a waifu means feeling genuine love and affection for a fictional character, not just a character that you think is the most attractive or your favorite. >>72103 Masturbating to other characters isn't cheating because masturbation isn't sex. You are not having sex with your waifu, nor are you having sex with any other fictional character. I don't think it's cheating for people in real relationships to masturbate to other people either. Everyone is entitled to fantasize about whatever they like.

>>72110 >I think generally what gives it away as being insincere is when someone goes immediately from one relationship into another. Okay, that makes sense. But let's say you took a generously long amount of time to decide that you can no longer be anime-married to character 1 and that character 2 is a better fit? E.g. one year

>>72111 The longer someone can consistently hold a feeling, the more likely they are to be able to correctly identify that feeling. The biggest problem I see with rampant switching is that people seem to be unable to identify what love is or if it's what they're feeling. If you believe you have felt love toward one person for a while, with no significant changes to the feeling, then it's likely that it is actually love. Consistency, longevity, and understanding are what it takes to identify love.