---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Robin and her Fantasy / Waifu relationship experience: Robin, a love addict was addicted to a Fantasy / Waifu about David. Her Fantasy / Waifu started meeting David on a dating site. Robin was instantly attracted to David when she first laid her eyes on David-- he was equally attracted to Robin. She was mesmerized by the hazel eyes that stared so intently into her own. He was charming, attentive, and seemingly very affectionate-- and he constantly lavished praise and adulation on Robin-- which made her feel very special. "He honestly was so sweet and endearing". David and Robin quickly developed an intense romantic relationship. Robins Fantasy / Waifu was sparked on the first date, but was only starting… Within three weeks her Fantasy / Waifu accelerated into high gear… By week four, Robin consciously came to a solid conclusion, “David is the one”. She declared to her close friend Jenny, “David is perfect, it’s like we’ve known each other forever, we’re best friends and lovers, I never met someone that's such a perfect fit for me. He’s so amazing Jenny! I’m so lucky and blessed to find such a rare man like him. Jenny, I love him so much, and I genuinely know he loves me as much. I know we are going to be, forever, together, I just feel it. We're already talking about our future together”. Robin was on a high, and she was sure she knew him, had him pegged, he was the man for her... she felt it, right? Unfortunately, only after a few months, Robins Fantasy / Waifu began getting a bit shaky, and her high was dissipating. There was an energy Robin sensed that started changing about David. She started to notice Davids interest and adoration for her started to wane. He didn’t seem so eager to get together on the weekends and would make weird excuses for it. Overtime, he didn't respond to her texts and phone calls like he use to, where before he would usually respond within a couple of hours, changed to maybe 24, sometimes 48 hours. When Robin would ask him if anything is going on, if he is feeling different about things, David would seem enraged, automatically become defensive and respond critically, "You're crazy, why do you say that you're so insecure and sensitive". Robin became more and more anxious, and sometimes she felt pure panic and distress. Robins Fantasy / Waifu, the person she imagined David to be, was cracking. One day, four months into the relationship, Robin saw Davids phone laying on her kitchen table, she picked it up and noticed a text from a woman, opened his phone to see who it was and discovered David was having sexual encounters with two women; they were emotional/sexual back and forths encounters for sure, but she wasn’t sure if he was actually getting together for sexual encounters. But it didn’t matter at this point… this was the beginning of her Fantasy / Waifu 'blowing up' to pieces. Robin went from one the best romantic high she's ever experienced to one of the lowest lows she's ever experienced... soon enough, she was in full withdrawal, and meltdown mode. Robins Fantasy / Waifu of who David really is/was, and the relationship she thought she had with him was her heroin... The Fantasy / Waifu of David was her drug. If it were possible for any person on earth to fulfill a love addicts Fantasy / Waifu… in no way (no how) could the type of person love addicts enter relationships (walled-off, avoidant, or narcissist). Moreover, many of them will have great difficulty to meet healthy relational needs that love addicts desire (e.g., closeness, intimacy, and mutual connection).

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If a Fantasy / Waifu can talk! When love addicts start noticing realities of their partner that fly in the face of their Fantasy / Waifu, the Fantasy / Waifu will try hard as hell, to excuse and justify these realities (denial). If the Fantasy / Waifu could talk, it may justify the noticed realities (e.g., immaturity, callousness, distancing tactics), by voicing things like: “he/she had a hard childhood”; “just be patient and love more, give more, do more”; “just be a better partner, stop being needy, stop talking about your feelings, stop telling him what your needs are, stop being so imperfect”; or “This isn’t the real him/her, he/she is the person I had in those first several weeks/months together…I want that person back”. Even when a love addict begins to notice stark realities about their partner, like Robin, the Fantasy / Waifu won't suddenly disappear, as a love addicts Fantasy / Waifu is quite often overpowering. But that doesn't mean it cannot be broken. It can. In fact, to get over an addiction to a person, a Fantasy / Waifu must be broken... even though grief and withdrawal is a necessary process, it is a worthwhile task to take on. Recovery becomes possible when we break from Fantasy / Waifu. Love addicts will have great difficulty to overcome love addiction so long as they continue medicating themselves with Fantasy / Waifu. This would be like a drug addict trying to get sober while continuing to smoke their dope or popping oxycontin. It doesn’t work. How to get over a Fantasy / Waifu relationship To overcome a Fantasy / Waifu of a romantic partner, we have to first start accepting that we’ve been in Fantasy / Waifu and this is a drug, the real drug. We have to explore: What we initially ‘made-up’ about the person, what the Fantasy / Waifu looked like (who we thought he/she was in Fantasy / Waifu); and thoughts and feelings of the Fantasy / Waifu. We then have to examine the reality of the person/who the person, in fact, really is. This part is the bigger challenge. This takes some legitimate work and effort, and brutal honesty. With continued examination, we steadily move into the truth and reality of who the person is. Overtime we clearly begin seeing the distinction of what we made up about someone ( Fantasy / Waifu) vs the reality of the person.

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For many love addicts, going through this process brings relief and is actually is very freeing. As they comprehend more and more, the reality of their avoidant or narcissistic partner, the more they see and realize, "This is not the kind of person I want for a long-term relationship, who he really was made me unhappy and miserable, and I deserve better, and it was not my fault". We can’t just wish a romantic Fantasy / Waifu away, in order to heal. This process takes work and effort. It is not an easy task. In some cases, it is possible to do it on our own-- however, this route can be risky, as love addicts are often very vulnerable to cycling back and forth into the Fantasy / Waifu, and/or finding someone else to replay the Fantasy / Waifu with. From my personal and professional experience, getting help and guidance from an expert from a professional who understands love addiction, is much more effective, as well as a more speedy path to crushing the Fantasy / Waifu. Remember, if you're addicted to a person, you're not addicted to the reality of him/her but the Fantasy / Waifu (the real drug)-- and yes it is toxic.

>>71679 Lol maybe even lmao.

>>71679 Neck yourself autist

>article about "waifu" >CTRL plus F "Japan" >0 results >ditto "anime" >0 results Irrelevant article