Before I get into any of this reply, I just want to say that if this isn't a LARP, you need to talk to your boyfriend. ABDL can be extremely varied and the very fundamental roots can be hugely different person to person. For example, for me, I really like the spanking connection, but it turns out most ABDLs aren't into spanking! For some people they like messing, but more than half of ABDLs don't. >What does being a little mean In its broadest sense, taking on the imagined role of someone dependent, needy, to be doted on/cared for >What does he want to do with me Only he can answer this. It sounds like he probably at least wants you to play along with babying a bit. >What does he want me to do Most likely? Say you accept him. Reassure him that you are not disgusted by him. >Do I have to wear diapers? You don't have to do anything you don't want to. You've made it a year without putting on diapers. You're going to have to ask him though - if you indulge him in other ways like a sippy cup or watching cartoons together, will that be enough? I am guessing he'll take what he can get. I would also say that you shouldn't feel overly anxious about wearing diapers though. Really, as long as you aren't using them at all they're just like scandalous panties. Like imagine your boyfriend asked you to wear some of those edible chocolate panties or something crotchless. Risque but just clothing. That's what diapers are. I agree fully that USING IT is a whole different threshold of course.

>>19243 Ok, That all actually sounds sweet. Now I feel like a bigger asshole for just immediately dismissing it. The big thing is I'll have to see what he has in mind for diapers. He didn't explicitly say he wanted me to wear them but I don't doubt for a second that he does. If he wants me to use them then that's going to be a hard no. I'll just have to keep the mental image of scandalous panties in mind and lay down some boundaries. I think we can both have some fun with this if he indulges me with cross dressing but I'll have to see in the morning

Just to take into consideration: The base of all relationship is comunication. He tryed to do this to you without any prior talk. You are not an asshole for refussing what he wanted when he didnt say anything at all until you inquired. Every person lives their kink in their own way, but forcing anyone into anything is never the way, even the sadist have a previous agreement to do their thing. Besides that... unless you get unconfortable with anything, giving it a try is never a bad idea. Just make him remember to ask you before pushing forwards with wathever he wants in this regard.

>>19242 like the other anon said, talk to your boyfriend about it and try not to be judgemental if you don't end up liking it. he was probably scared of saying anything due to a fear of rejection. just try to be supportive of him no matter what.

>>19248 >>19250 This morning we talked about it and I apologized for making him feel bad. He explained he was just testing the waters to see how I reacted since he was too afraid to ask what he really wanted. So we spent our morning talking about what he wants. In his terms he wants me to be his little boy. he said he doesn't care if I wear diapers but I assured him it was ok and we did some shopping for age appropriate clothes and some stuffed animals. He even showed me a few diapers to see what I liked but I just let him pick. We did compromise and I wanted to have some girly clothing too. He was hesitant but he got some cute bunny themed diapers and some skirts. It felt good. Im actually kinda excited to see how he reacts when I'm all dressed up for him. Also for a fetish I've never heard of there are a ton of options holy crap

>>19262 Yeah, like the anon said at the top of the thread, there are a lot of different reasons people are ABDL. Some people like the almost latex plasticy feel of disposables, some people like the actual use, some people just like the taboo/humiliation of wearing something they shouldn't, it can even be a matter of control and combine with BDSM and chastity, and for some it's almost a comfort-zone return to carefree times. Because the root cause for the desires can be so wildly different, that leads to wildly different interpretations, items, etc.

>>19244 >Now I feel like a bigger asshole for just immediately dismissing it you're not an asshole and that's a natural reaction to just about any reasonably obscure fetish. the fact that you care enough to follow up at all is proof that you aren't just being an asshole. i'd agree with the other anon, talk to your partner and see what specifically they're into and try whatever you feel you can tolerate, but don't push yourself and if you're not comfortable with something say so and don't force yourself to do it. ultimately compromise is part of any relationship and that includes him as much as it does you; if you're not comfortable with something, say so.

>tfw no diaper tolerant boyfriend pain.

Its not about if you want diapers You need them

Op here, Thanks for being supportive this is all still new to me. My bf and I tried it yesterday and it's actually not bad. I let him make some rules like I couldn't have my phone for the day, I couldn't use big words unless I needed to, I could only watch kids shows and I could only play with kids toys. The last part was kinda pathetic because all he got were coloring books. I played along and basically let him do his thing. I never expected how vulnerable i felt when he rubbed me down with the diaper cream. I actually enjoyed it. I took the opportunity to watch some really old Disney channel shows I used to watch like Lilo and stitch the series. They were terrible in a charming way. I did some coloring and he made me a pb&j with the crust cut off on a Walmart paw patrol plate which actually felt kinda sweet in a wierd way. I decided to switch it up a bit since the shows kinda sucked. We watched Oliver and company and we cuddled on the couch he got me under his arm and started grabbing my diaper butt. Up until this point I was kinda lazy about it and going through the motions so I said "I love you daddy" in the most little voice possible trying to help make his day and I even tried telling him what was happening as it happened using small words. He seemed to really enjoy it. As the movie ended I was laying on his lap I told him I wanted to be changed again and I wanted him to jerk me off while he did it too. He agreed he'd do it if I used the diaper. Or as he put it "you want me to change you? But you're bone dry." I know what he was implying but I had an open mind and decided to use the diaper. Nothing special felt warm, he kept rubbing my dick under the diaper which the padding felt nice. We then went to the bedroom and had some fun that was a bit more in my realm of expertise. He berated me for not being a big boy and that I needed to be punished. He spanked me pretty good and put me in the pink diapers I wanted as "punishment". It got a lot more exciting for me after I was put in the bunny diapers every time he pulled up my play shirt and I saw the pink diaper it got me excited. Begging and telling him I'll be a good boy made me feel pretty euphoric chasing a new high. By the night we switched it up again and I was suddenly his good boy again because I kept the diaper dry. With a bunch of excessive praise he fucked me and jerked me off and put me in another diaper for night. I snoozed a bit laying on his lap but when it came time for bed I was just sweaty and uncomfortable in the diaper and I had to take it off. Is there a secret to wearing at night? Anyway that was my first experience. I enjoyed it and want to do it again hopefully a bit better prepared next time. My bf seemed to enjoy it but he wants me to get more into being a little. I thought using small words and calling him daddy would do so I guess I need some advice for being a good little

>>19604 What you've just described sounds like someone posting their fantasies. I would be beyond thrilled if I ever have a gf this open to trying this with me. Also perhaps a cloth-backed diaper would be better for sleeping in? It's not actual cloth, but there are disposable diapers with a backing material that feels cloth-like, like actual modern baby diapers. Those ones are much better at letting humidity out.

>>19610 Well, it's his idea, we're trying to see what works for us since we have 2 different visions of this is gonna be like. He appears to like the more innocent side of it if you will but it doesn't really do it for me. I've always liked bondage spanking and humiliation so the punishment stuff works well for me. He's always been slightly more vanilla than me so this is easily the most extreme thing he's wanted to do so I just want to make him happy. I'll have to ask if he bought any cloth diapers. We got a lot of samples to try

>>19604 The things I'd do for this. You're a lucky guy, OP. I don't care if this is real or not, I'll believe it in the hopes I can have something like it one day.

Ok, I keep reading about little space online, what is it? It sounds like some people legitimately think they're little how does this work and how do I determine what age range I want to play as

>>19725 I don't think you need to give it a fancy name, it's just being happy and relaxed and enjoying yourself

>>19725 It's fantasy roleplay, I think. I don't think anyone abdl actually thinks they're a child. I think they're spaces just meant to help people pretend/get into the fantasy of being younger. Also that's a bit of an odd question, "how do I determine what age range I want to play as". Like, how do you determine what your favorite ice cream is? Just whatever tastes best to you. Or in this case, whatever age you'd like to be if you could be any age. Props to you for asking these questions for his sake, though. I hope he realizes what a real gem he's found. Personally I like being able to walk around and talk and play and stuff, but I also fantasize about being able to wear diapers casually with everyone knowing and nobody thinking it's odd or anything, and being cute in them. So 3-4 is kinda my ideal age range. Maybe a very small 4 year old? Though that is kinda pushing it for age of being diapered? So maybe 3. I also don't really like the idea of going #2 in them, so being like partly-potty-trained makes sense at older ages. Personally the roleplay sounds like a fun partner bonding activity, but the things that sound most appealing to me are beyond the ability to RP, unfortunately - like being small and light enough to be carried around or pushed around in a stroller by my caregivers, and an age where that's normal and I'm light and small enough that it's no big deal and nobody bats an eye even if my diaper is showing clearly, and I don't notice, either.

>>19725 Keep in mind that you don't have to strictly adhere to a certain age or age range. While a lot of people do decide on a "Little Age", they will often pick and choose different activities they enjoy from a variety of ages. Maybe you enjoy crawling around on the ground but you still want to eat adult foods and feed yourself. Maybe you enjoy drinking from a bottle but don't want to watch baby cartoons. Rather than worrying about an exact age, I'd just focus on finding activities you enjoy.

>>19776 >>19776 > While a lot of people do decide on a "Little Age", they will often pick and choose different activities they enjoy from a variety of ages This is why the concept of little age is stupid. Just do what you enjoy

>>19735 Roleplay is fun, my favorite is pretending I'm a slave he just bought from market but this roleplay is a very different beast but based on what you're saying I might want to try a 4 year old. Sounds like the most flexible I can still do pacifier, diapers and stuff but still be mobile wider range of toys. Speaking of toys, apparently he got something for me so I'll have to see what it is tomorrow >>19776 >>19779 I did talk to my boyfriend and we agreed having a set age would probably help us both get into it because admittedly I had no idea wtf I was doing and I was all over the place. I'm sure I'll find an age range that works for me with some experimentation

Finally an update we weren't able to fool around the last couple weeks because of various unforseen events but yesterday we finally had a day to ourselves. He was much better prepared this time as he got a lot more stuff. A changing pad, an entire pack of diapers some more clothing. He pulled all the stops and I admit I enjoyed myself. As soon as I woke up he was ready to start. I was a bit more skeptical thinking we'd do it later but he wanted an entire day. I let him have his way as it was no big deal. He put me in one of those pupper diapers and a footie and gave me coffee in a sippy cup. I thought it was funny and cute till I actually tried drinking it and found out how much of a pita it is to get anything out of those damn cups. We cuddled on the couch drinking our coffee while he watched the morning news I don't really care so I finished my coffee and laid my head on my lap kinda snoozing waiting for the coffee to kick in. He pet my head and asked me if I needed to be changed. I had been trying to get used to saying little phrases practicing the age I had settled on which seemed to get him excited. I haven't had my morning piss yet so I said I needed to go potty. He told me we will try potty training later and rubbed my crotch saying he'd clean me up really good. I decided to go for it. It was quite nervous feeling it pool up I thought it was gonna leak out but it was all absorbed and nothing happened so I was able to relax again and let out the last of it. I pretended to be upset about having an accident and we went to get changed. He got me out of my pajamas and untapped the diaper. I told him I was sorry for not making it to the potty and he told me it was okay but I got my fun out of it when he started jerking me off. I was hoping we'd have sex but I think it's something about ruining the illusion or something. He cleaned me up and put me in a cloth pull up because we're gonna do potty training. I got a cute shirt and some elastic shorts he told me to go out to the living room while he got a surprise. He comes out with a tote full of just mixed up Legos. If I ever experienced little space. That was it. When I was a kid my favorite thing to do was make Lego planes and crash them or Lego cars and intentionally make them super loose so they'd crash into a ton of pieces. went straight at it taking all the axle pieces for myself and making a bunch of race cars. They were little things nothing to be proud of but it was fun sending them flying sideways into the leg of the coffee table and watching them explode he put on some cartoons for background noise and played with me. He made some buildings and let me crash the cars into them. He didn't seem to get it as the buildings were always built very strong and didn't break like I would have liked. He baked some chicken tenders for lunch and when I had to go to the bathroom he made it seem like some special achievement as he'd help me get undressed and on the toilet then he'd give me excessive praise saying good job and such. Kinda embarrassing but he seemed to enjoy it. We had pizza for dinner and we showered together at which point I was diapered and put into a footie. We watched some cartoons and it was time for bed. I felt cheated that we didn't have sex or at least a jerk off but it's his fun not mine but whatever. Couldn't sleep in the diaper again. I toss and turned till I finally had enough took it all off and put on underwear. Is that just something you have to get used to or do you bed-wetters just kinda deal with it. Anyway I had a great time and can pretty comfortably say I'm abdl

>>20616 Pics or it didn’t happen

>>19242 No way this would be on here. It would be on reddit. Moe is way too down the rabbit hole. This is all RP

>>20715 my consensus as well