>>10710
I mean... are you seriously defending the sort of people who dig through trash for things to jack off with, scam the government for a fetish, openly and obviously sexually roleplay among people who do not consent to it, are actual pedophiles, and pretend to be retarded to trick others into playing along with a fetish? The last one is the only one we know for sure was arrested and charged with something, but all those things can result in legal troubles and vilification from others even if they weren't ABDL related. There has to be some standards and limits even for ABDLs. It's not a good idea to be an open pervert and do things that can cause a moral panic with normal people or cause legal issues. ABDL is a weird fetish already and people like this make the majority of more self aware and relatively normal acting of us that just want to be left alone with our interests look worse in the eyes of regular people.
>>10722
The fuck are you talking about?
We're humans, social animals by nature, there are always rules of behavior of some sort for interacting with other humans, be it implicit or explicit and internal or external. The emotions of shame and fear in relation to social interaction exist for a reason. It's there to keep you from doing stuff that can get you ostracized or hated by a social group. Again, we're social animals and that's important because humans, even in the modern world, survive better as groups and with social connection of some sort rather than in solitude. In extreme cases not fitting in and conforming to some extent can get you arrested or killed.
There's nothing wrong being autist weirdo or freaky pervert and it's okay not to be normal, but you still have to put on the human suit for interaction with normal people that make up the majority of society.
As
>>10725 put it, ABDL is a cringe fetish. There's nothing wrong with being aware that you have a cringe fetish that normies don't like to see and will ridicule or hate you it. Just look at when anything ABDL related comes up in mainstream media and fiction. It's always either played to be disturbing or for comedic purposes. Normal people at worst think ABDLs in general are a version of pedos to be feared and despised and at best don't take us seriously and ridicule us. Being exposed to weird fetishes tends to make most people cringe or laugh.
Most ABDLs and other people with weird fetishes seem to have enough self awareness to keep their fetishes in the closet, not draw attention to themselves, and only bring it up in the right settings and contexts such as this imageboard or sites relevant to the fetish. Even then there's weirder stuff that comes up and people who lack that self awareness, lack any shame, and don't seem to have a filter on what not to say or do.
There's always going to be other humans that will hate or ridicule you regardless. It's usually best not give people extra reasons to do so. You're not going to be totally accepted or even tolerated by everyone.
I'm perplexed that over the years I've repeatedly encountered people online that insist on universal tolerance and acceptance. Yes, it's an ideal, but not realistic and it's not how humans actually behave. There's always going to be biases and prejudices and in some cases this is rational to avoid predators, creepers, and people that will attempt to exploit and fuck over other people. I suspect this viewpoint comes from people who don't interact much outside of niche groups and the internet.
There's nothing wrong with having awareness of that and being able to laugh at yourself and the idea that there are people who are worse. It's healthy to recognize the absurdity, weirdness, and fallibility of life and existence and not get overly upset about it.