I have a theory that a lot of what is wrong with the world is the way the message of tolerance was fundamentally miscommunicated. Instead of promoting tolerance as "people who are different are still okay", being different is considered a virtue that you should lean into and can be proud of. This is a drag on the world and our culture.
It's good that people are more tolerant of those who aren't normal: gays, retards, autists, obese, poor, the disfigured, etc. Failing to be normal should not be a reason for you to live through unnecessary misery due to losing dignity or polite treatment.
But the perversion of this message is that you should be proud of not being normal, that you should lean in and double down on these qualities, and that all of this makes you a better person. The problem is that society works better when people use available means to become more normal or mitigate their deviations from normal. It is the difference between "I'm obese and beautiful" and "This is the best I can do right now, but I've already made positive changes and I am open to finding better ways to lose more weight in the future."
It probably sounds like the problem I'm describing overlaps with rampant leftism and social justice. And it does. But I think it also extends beyond social politics...
FOR MOST PEOPLE, MOST OF THE TIME, following a normal path through life is their best ticket to happiness. For example, you don't want a job that requires winning a career lottery, you want a normal one. You don't want to delay family formation so you can have it all, you want to do it earlier. Being a single parent isn't an acceptable alternative akin to sainthood, you want a two parent team who have agreed to stick together. You don't want to indulge in anti-social behavior because of some shitty subculture, you want to choose normal social interactions that build your normal social skills. You don't want to be an internet activist, you want to spend time with real friends, family, and communities. We are literally setting people up to fail when the standard choice are not pressed hard enough, and the alternative choices are given undeserved coats of glamour or pride. Failure makes people more unhappy, more disconnected, and more alone. I think the failure to guide as many people down this path as we could have is the primary driver of each decade's cultural changes, including the shitty rise of social justice.