>>985465
Well first of all you must figure out if you think love is a noun(something you have) or a verb(something you do). Personally I think it's a verb, so the rest of my post will go with this idea.
Then you need to figure out her Love Language, and it would be good to know yours as well. In case you do not know, there are five Love Languages, and these are
words of affection such as saying "I love you!", "You are beautiful",
gifts such as a pebble you found on the road, a love letter, or even jewelery,
touching which includes hand holding, hugs and kissing,
offering services such as helping with the dishes or making a sandwich, and
time spent together, which can vary from watching a movie or you playing video games while she is in the same room reading a book. In general people have one or two predominant Love Language and I think it's important for both partners to know each other's love language. Why is it important? Well let's suppose the man has
words of affection" as his Love Language while the woman has offering services''' and they don't communicate in each other's love language. In this case the woman will say "Sure he says he loves me and all that shit, but he never helps me with the dishes! Why isn't he there for me?" while the man will say "Sure she prepares a sandwich for me when I ask her, but how come she never says that she loves me? Does she hate me?"
Then you have the six love styles:
>Eros
The type of romance you see in old movies and plays. It's very passionate and strong, but if something bad happens the person might jump off a bridge, think Romeo and Juliet
>Ludus
Love is just a game, people like this have a list of things to increase their value in the market, they constantly look for dating strategies, and even in marriage it's a game of manipulation to keep the other one in check. "Oh my wife isn't loving me as much, at a party I will talk more with other girls to make her jealous and that will put her in her place, then I will tell her how lucky she is to have me, and if she doesn't improve then I will just sleep with other women in secret."
>Storge
You married your childhood friend. This love style while not as intense as Eros, is usually very long lasting.
>Mania
Extremely jealous and manipulative, probably takes the worst aspects of Eros and Ludus. If you don't say "I love you!" every five minutes the partner will stab you with a knife, but at least the sex is good. The japanese would call this type of person a yandere.
>Agape
Kind and altruistic, receives more pleasure from giving than from receiving, the definition of unconditional love. These are usually very good people, sadly they fall pray to narcissists and other abusers. Probably what people think when they say "momy gf".
>Pragma
This is my love style. You think what could your partner bring to the relationship, and if your goals match. You take the partner's pros and cons and calculate if it's worth spending the rest of your days with that other person. Love is a contract and has nothing to do with emotion. Can form a very strong bond, but might take decades. In the past this was represented by arranged marriages
So basically to love a woman, you find her love language and then do "acts of love" as often as possible depending on her love language to express your love, while also making sure she does the same for you. You now also know how people can perceive love, and please avoid Mania and Ludus if you want a long term relationship.